Sometimes what we grieve is obvious - the death of the people we love or even losing a job. But more often, the changing of friendships, relationships, status, or general transitions in life can lead to grief. Break-ups, moving to a new town, pursuing dreams and changing direction are all part of life. Sometimes we forget to acknowledge the hard part about leaving a job, relationship, friendship or hometown and a few months into the transition, we are left feeling empty and somewhat lost.
We are bombarded with messages talking about how to grieve - or the right and wrong ways to grieve. Truthfully, the what, why, how, and when of grief looks different for each person - there is no “correct” way to grieve.
In light of recent changes in your life you might be feeling stuck, frustrated, anxious, depressed or dull - but the fact of the matter is, your grief is unique to you. You are hoping to get back to “normal life,” but at times wondering what life would be if it felt “normal” again. Everyday tasks feel daunting and challenging - like going grocery shopping, cleaning your house, or playing with your pet. Having the thought: “I wish life were normal again” is a common thought many people have while grieving.
We live in a culture where it is difficult to talk about the things we miss, are sad about or are grieving and that is because most of us didn’t learn how to grieve, nor were we taught that grieving something we love is okay. We are here to tell you that grief is part of life and although painful, is necessary in order to move forward in a healthy way.
Our team also works with Christians and can offer counseling from a faith-based understanding. We can partner with churches to offer support to their church families.
Your life has changed significantly and adjusting to your new “normal” is not an easy task. That is where we come in. Here at Lime Tree Counseling, we are specialists in helping people process and walk through grief to come out on the other side of it stronger. We won’t just offer you ways to cope, but we will partner with you to find hope, healing and freedom.
Imagine enjoying life again. Not feeling guilty for continuing to live while also cherishing the special memories you have with your loved one. Life won’t feel the same as it once did - but there is hope to discover newness and freshness of life again. If we do our job well, we will be working ourselves out of a job - the goal isn’t to keep you in counseling forever, but to get you back to the point where you feel functional, healthy, and whole again.
There are a number of ways to approach grief, but there are two VERY important things to know:
(1) There is a misconception about grief: that a person simply moves through the “stages” - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance - and then are suddenly better. Grief is not as simple as a checklist - there are not just stages you move through and are done with. Although this tool is helpful, it is often not talked about how a person can move back and forth through each stage and experience all of the stages several times. When a person feels “stuck” in their grief, it might be that they are stuck in between a stages and are having trouble moving forward.
(2) Grief can come in many forms and it may look different every time you experience it. We understand choosing to reach out and ask for support is not easy, but neither is sitting alone in your grief. At Lime Tree Counseling, we take the time to understand your background and the life you live. There are so many experiences that make you who you are, we want to take the time to understand all of the unique characteristics that make you, you. Finding the right counselor can be scary, but one way we hope to make this process easier is by offering a free phone consultation. We’ll talk briefly over the phone to see if you’d like to come in for a session and take a step towards finding healing.
Perhaps you have had experience in counseling already and it didn’t go the way you hoped. Maybe you’ve never seen a counselor and are unsure where to start. Wherever you are on your journey - if anything you’ve read on this page resonates with you, please don’t hesitate to reach out. We are experts at helping people grieve and process so they can come out on the other side stronger & more capable. Together we can cultivate hope, heal from past hurts & discover more of the life you were meant to live. We are here for you - you don’t have to be alone in your suffering. Call to get your questions answered and your free consultation scheduled today!