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By Nathan Bailey, MA, LPC<\/a><\/h6>\n

Along the path to recovery, there\u2019s a number of frequent sayings or phrases that are often used. Any community has unique ways to illustrate a principle or idea but in recovery if the deeper meaning is lost, those sayings can become a way to hide from actual reflection. Let\u2019s take a look at 7 such sayings and understand their intended purpose:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. \u201cI\u2019m taking it one day at a time.\u201d<\/h2>\n

When someone starts the path of recovery, it\u2019s easy to feel overwhelmed by the thought of a lifetime of effort, struggle and strain. When we limit our perspective to \u201cwhat do I need to do today\u201d it suddenly becomes more manageable. Those with years or even decades of sobriety will often credit their success with just stringing together a lot of 24hr segments of time, completing the actions they needed to sustain change. It\u2019s a little like a professional baseball player thinking more of where their feet are in the batter box, their hands on the bat etc. as opposed to \u201cI need to win this game.\u201d When someone tells me \u201cI\u2019m just taking it one day at a time\u201d I ask \u201cwhat is it you need to do each day in order to be the best version of yourself.\u201d Drilling into this type of specific application is critical. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. \u201cIt\u2019s all about me right now.\u201d<\/h2>\n

When approaching recovery, it\u2019s important to recognize the incredible effort needed to establish and maintain healthy behaviors and attitudes. Narrowing the focus of this effort makes sense because we all have a capacity and operating above ours will cause a problem. Think of this like the instruction we hear when flying \u201cin the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first before helping others.\u201d Certainly we have responsibilities that extend beyond ourselves but if we\u2019re not doing what we need to do for ourselves first, we can\u2019t be present for others. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u201cKeep it simple.\u201d<\/h2>\n

Sometimes as a way of encouraging someone looking to make a change in their addictive behavior I\u2019ll say \u201crecovery isn\u2019t rocket science.\u201d What I mean is that while everyone\u2019s different, we do know there\u2019s a number of key principles\/practices that can make a profound positive impact in change. By \u201ckeeping it simple\u201d we don\u2019t create a pressure to do \u201ceverything\u201d all the time which of course, we can\u2019t do anyway. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. \u201cI\u2019m doing what I\u2019ve got to do.\u201d<\/h2>\n

Similar to #1, the challenge here is in knowing what exactly that is. You might not be surprised that when I ask someone to clarify what \u201cit\u201d is, often there\u2019s not a clear answer. It\u2019s important we find those things we can do or do more of which directly contributes to an increase in our emotional and physical well being. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u201cPatience is a virtue.\u201d<\/h2>\n

I have to admit that when I hear this, it\u2019s like nails on a chalkboard (remember those?). I think the reason is that a big part of recovery is learning to \u201cwait.\u201d To recognize the balance between what we can control and what we can\u2019t. There are many aspects in life that don\u2019t happen on our timeline and when we try to control or force something to happen, it can cause us great harm. This is a dynamic that I see as so critical to healthy recovery that when I perceive someone has fallen into the trap (of just repeating this without letting it sink in) I want to encourage them to dig deeper into what this might mean in their own daily life. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d<\/h2>\n

While this can be a statement of acceptance, it can also be a trap of fatalism. Certainly there are things we will encounter that we can\u2019t change that we will need to accept, at the same time we can choose how we respond or react. For example, we can\u2019t change the fact that someone in our family might want to judge or insult us but that doesn\u2019t mean we have to just \u201ctake it\u201d because they\u2019re family. We can choose to confront them (in a healthy way) to bring about change. If that doesn\u2019t work, we can set boundaries that protects us from their negative (or even abusive) behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. \u201cLive life on life\u2019s terms.\u201d<\/h2>\n

I\u2019ve heard this used to respond to a number of situations. The way I might encourage someone to apply this would be to invest time\/energy into addressing those areas in their life that are contributing to their compulsive behavior as opposed to avoiding them. It\u2019s often not as apparent that certain things we\u2019ve been avoiding are challenges to stopping use of substances, pornography or online gambling, the reality is that those activities are likely being used to \u201cescape.\u201d When we tackle the attitudes, emotions, physical ailments, relational minefields etc. we can make significant strides comprehensively.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Lime Tree Counseling Wants to Help<\/span><\/h2>\n

Lime Tree Counseling is a team of caring professionals that are here to help you. We offer addictions counseling<\/a>, therapy for anxiety, trauma therapy, grief counseling, Christian counseling, online counseling in Colorado, online counseling in North Carolina, online counseling in Pennsylvania and in-person counseling in Ambler, PA. Schedule with us today!<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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